About this poem and poet :
Edasseri Govindan Nair is Malayalam Poet & Playwright who used his poems and plays to fight against cruelty based traditional belief and social stigma. He uses general community themes to convey his message.
Traditional arranged marriages, where the father searches for just a secure bridegroom, are still very much part of Kerala’s tradition and have often become a family disaster.
This poem is about a father’s feeling towards his daughter after her arranged marriage according to traditional custom of Kerala. In this poem a father finds a rich son-in-law to secure his daughter’s future, but the son-in-law had took a word from the father that he will never visit them after the marriage. The poem is about the dilemma and pain that father faces after he got her married. On one side he has a vowed to his son-in-law that he will never visit them and on the side his love and affection makes him desperate.
An old father–in-law who was not financially sound.
Visited his well to do son-in-law against his wish.
The son-in-law had earlier made promise from the helpless father- in law that he should not visit his daughter.
He could not live without visiting his daughter for long.
This is the subject of this beautiful poem..